My Dad is very ill The Social worker is making decisions for me concerning his overall care.I need some help?

I don,t want to put all the details but I would like him to be around familiar faces.He don,t talk anymore.I was in the process of getting guardianship over his things and finances a nursing home is the last resort.It,s just a place for them to go before they pass on.I don,t want to remember my Dad in that state.So I need resourses nurses that can assist me and my Dad that is not out just to get paid someone who is caring to take care of him I want to get an apt. for us and have in-home care only God knows our future he might out live us all and the social worker.

My Dad is very ill The Social worker is making decisions for me concerning his overall care.I need some help?
Hi Angie. Your question made me think of my Dad. He suffered with Alzheimer's for about 14 years, the last 8 of which he was confined to bed; unable to speak, recognize anyone or swallow. He had to take liquid nourishment through a stomach tube. All of this time, he was at home with my 83 year old mother and many visiting family members who lived very close by (less than a mile). Despite there being a lot of family help, a nurse was hired to come in once or twice a day to care for him. I honestly don't think he had any idea of whether he was in a nursing home or his own home. As in your case, the decision to keep him home was based on how we survivors felt. We too just felt badly about the thought of putting him in a nursing home. I suggest you check with the visiting nurse organizations in your area to see what services they offer and the prices to see what you can afford. Please see if you can also get some support and help from other family members. You will find you really cannot get too much help. Your needs will extend beyond caring for your Dad. You will need emotional outlets and occasional breaks for you to get out in the world. I wish you much luck and bless you for your love, empathy and compassion in taking this on.
Reply:Assuming you of age you can take it into your own hands. Contact social services or his insurance company and tell them what you are looking for. Be assertive, do not cave to what they want. If you are not of age, your hands are tied unless you can get another adult to step in and side with you.
Reply:I would talk to my attorney and see if they can recommend someone who's familiar with elder law and what you can do and not do. This is one reason that I've already made arrangements if something happens to me and how I want things taken care of. I'm not sure where you live but there are usually agencies that will help with home care for the elderly and the disabled. You might seriously want to think about having a nurse come in at least for a few hours so that you can have some time to yourself. That will be really important so that you can keep yourself healthy both physically and mentally. I raised a developmentally delayed daughter I know how exshuating it can be when there's no one else who can help with the day to day care for someone who can't take care of them selves.